"I don't know why ... I'll never know why ... I don't have to know why ... I don't like it ... I don't have to like it ... What I do have to do is make a choice about my living. -- What I do want to do is to accept it and go on living. The choice is mine. -- I can go on living, valuing every moment in a way I never did before, -- or I can be destroyed by it and, in turn, destroy others. -- I thought I was immortal, that my children and family were also, -- That tragedy happened to others ... -- But I know now that life is tenuous and valuable. And I choose to go on living, making the most of the time I have, -- Valuing my family and friends in a way I never experienced before." --Iris M. Bolton
Life, Love, and Learing (Volume 2.1)
~"Although the world is full of sorrow,
it is full also of the overcoming of it." --Helen Keller
The world is full of sorrow, everybody should realize that. Everybody should aslo realize that in order to live their life to the fullest, they have to be able to overcome that sorrow. People live and they go, and when they go, you have to be able to let them go. Hold on for a time and have your grief, but do not grieve for too long, because after a point, you go from sorrow to self-pity. "Sorrow says 'it hurts', self-pity says 'poor me'" (Ellen Sue Stern). If you have sorrow in your life, there is nothing that would make you feel worse about what ever you are sorrowful about except if you couple that sorrow with self-pity.
Life does not wait for anybody...
Time does not stop just because you say so. Life goes on, you keep on living and learning. If something bad happens, gieve for a few days, but do not turn your entire life upside-down wallowing in self-pity. You may not like it, but you can't fix it, so keep moving. Learn from what has happened and move on. Do not dwell on the past in hopes that you can go back and make everything right again because unless you can do time travel, you can't change the past...
Would you even want to change to past? Some things are better off the way they are. I know this is a little on the short side, but I've already covered everything i feel needed to be covered...
Much love,
~Afriqueen
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